What is a Bridesmaid?

Being a great attendant. A bridesmaid is first and foremost someone who the bride wants to be a part of her wedding. Perhaps she is a sister, or a very close friend; her friendship and support of the marriage is very meaningful. More than that, a bridesmaid and/or maid-of-honor serves a practical purpose. During the hectic time of planning a wedding, she is a confidant, advice giver, doer of menial tasks, errand runner and more. A bride should have at least one bridesmaid (preferably the maid-of-honor) who is reliable, cheerfully helpful, organized, and who lives close to the bride.

A bridesmaid’s duties include:
  • helping the bride shop for her dress and bridesmaids’ dresses 
  • giving advice on decorations, favors, music, and more 
  • helping with the rehearsal dinner 
  • planning (and usually hosting) a bridal shower 
  • planning the bachelorette party (this she may pay for or split the cost with the other attendees) 
  • helping the bride dress (and stay calm) before the ceremony 
  • holding the bouquet during the ceremony 
  • providing moral support at all times 
  • telling others where the couple is registered and other details, such as when they will return from their honeymoon, where to send gifts, and any name changes. 

Additionally, a bride may ask her bridesmaid to organize vendors, to assist elderly guests, and to help with other details such as seating plans, guest lists and more.

There is a considerable expense involved in being a bridesmaid, including cost of apparel, travel and hotel room for the ceremony, hosting a party, as well as a shower gift and a wedding gift. A bridesmaid can save money by asking others to pitch in for the showers, wearing a dress she already owns (if that’s okay with the bride), making her own dress, and staying with friends. She can give her friend the gift of time - i.e., the gift of addressing and stuffing the invitations. Also, a bride may pay for some of the expenses if her budget allows it.